First deaf priest in US leads Mass for parishioners in Minneapolis

Parishioners at Our Lady of Mount Carmel in Minneapolis, about half of whom are deaf, had the chance to attend Mass Nov. 20 celebrated by the first deaf man ordained a Roman Catholic priest in the U.S., Father Tom Coughlin.  

Ordained in 1977 for the Order of the Most Holy Trinity, Father Coughlin, 75, left that order and helped found a community of priests and brothers who minister to the deaf, disabled, marginalized and minorities in parishes and hospitals — the Castello (Dominican) Missionaries for the Deaf and Disabled of USA, based in Newark, New Jersey. He is an incardinated priest in the Diocese of Honolulu, Hawaii. 

After Mass, deaf parishioner Carol Buley, 73, said it was “really exciting” to have a deaf priest celebrate Mass, which doesn’t happen often. “It’s … fantastic to be able to see a deaf priest signing directly with us. It’s great to have interpreters, but to have somebody of our own culture, having a deaf priest signing directly with us, is just fantastic.” 

About 80 people attended the Mass at the small church, a fact noted by Father Coughlin in his welcome. He used American Sign Language to say he came from a “huge, fancy, million-dollar cathedral” in New Jersey to this “cute, little church” that is cozy and warm. “I feel all the warmth and love,” he said. “Jesus is here with you.”  

Interpreter and parishioner Susan Sweezo, born to deaf parents, used a microphone at the front of the church to speak his words to the hearing audience. During parts of the Mass with singing, parishioner Stephanie Stroik stood on steps near the altar and signed the words. Two others each took a turn. 

Father Coughlin concelebrated Mass with pastor Father Mike Krenik, who is learning ASL. The visiting priest also mingled with parishioners during a casual breakfast in the church basement before Mass. The parish has about 120 parishioners. 

Jesuit Father William O’Brien, director of novices for the Jesuit Novitiate of St. Alberto Hurtado in St. Paul, extended an invitation to Father Coughlin to visit sometime with deaf novice Todd Honas of Nebraska, who is in his first year of formation. That opportunity presented itself when Father Coughlin traveled to the Twin Cities to preside at a wedding Nov. 19.  

Honas, 25, has been helping at the parish since early September, serving as a lector at Sunday Masses, leading a weekly “faith group” and, occasionally, delivering Communion to deaf parishioners. Father Coughlin said Father O’Brien hoped to give Honas support and encouragement.  

“He has the right personality, skills and intelligence, and he has the vocation for it,” Father Coughlin said of Honas. The pair have been communicating for about a month via a “video relay phone,” signing back and forth on the screen. 

“It’s very important for him that I’m his friend and supporter because he’s so new in this experience, coming into a religious community, religious life, … and I’m so happy to give him advice and support,” Father Coughlin said through an interpreter. 

Honas said having the first ordained deaf priest in the U.S. connect with “the most recent man to want to become a deaf priest (is) kind of a cool mix.” 

Father Coughlin recalled feeling lonely when he was a novice and thinking about leaving. But his director told him, “You have to suffer so that other people can have it easier.” Father Coughlin then understood the meaning of his suffering. “That gave me a purpose of why I have to suffer coming into the seminary,” he said. He decided to stay. 

Through an interpreter, Honas said people who are deaf do not need to be fixed, and they don’t want sympathy. “We accept our deafness … but we want (others) to understand that from our perspective,” he said. 

It can be frustrating meeting with priests and bishops who can’t communicate with the deaf, he said. Many priests know Latin, Greek, Spanish … “Could they learn ASL?” he asked, as he suggested offering it at seminaries as a start.  

Deaf people face big challenges as priests, he said, such as administering the sacrament of penance because “you can’t use an interpreter for penance; you have to have a deaf priest.” He wishes interpreters were not needed at Mass because “circumventing has to occur.”  

“It’s not direct communication,” he said. 

Father William Kenney, 92, who served the deaf and hard of hearing in the Archdiocese of St. Paul and Minneapolis for 40 years, attended the Nov. 20 Mass. Our Lady of Mount Carmel initially served a large population of Italians, and as numbers dwindled, there had been talk of closing the parish, he said. So, he told parishioners that “if we wanted to keep it open, if we brought our deaf community here, they would have the opportunity to stay open,” he said. “And they all wanted the deaf to come.” 

Serving those who are deaf or hard of hearing is a reminder “that we should be mindful of those who are not able to use the normal avenues to make contact with their religious faith,” Father Kenney said.